I hurt my boyfriend’s feelings! How to fix this now before it’s too late
“I hurt my boyfriend’s feelings.” Unfortunately, most of us have said this at some point. The moment you first realize that what you did or said hurt your boyfriend is the very moment you want to crawl into a hole and hide. It’s horrible to hurt the person you love the most. Although he tells you that he is over it, things are not the same. Perhaps he has withdrawn a bit or is less affectionate. If you leave this unattended, he may start to resent you for the pain you caused him and inevitably that is the beginning of the end of your relationship. You have to act now if you want to smooth things over and make him feel closer to you again.
Obviously, it goes without saying that an apology is essential if you have hurt the feelings of the man you love. How you handle the apology is very important. What most women tend to do is keep apologizing after the first try. If he doesn’t seem to accept the apology, don’t pressure him to do so. If you’ve tried to make it up to him, that’s all you can do. Resorting to buying her things or sending her love letters won’t help. In fact, they will damage things more because he will feel that you are trying to win back his love. Just tell him genuinely and sincerely that you’re sorry and leave it at that.
It is inevitable that a man will back down if he has been hurt. All human beings do it. It is part of our emotional defense mechanism. How he handles his need for space will determine the future of your relationship.
You need to take advantage of your maturity after you’ve hurt your boyfriend’s feelings and give him time to process and absorb it. I may need a break from you. If you fight with him about it, you are literally suggesting that his needs matter little compared to yours. However, if you accept that you hurt him and to get over that he needs some space, he will be touched that you respect him so much.
The key is not to let it slip away. Even if he has retired, be supportive and compassionate. Let him know that you are always available to talk to him about anything. Once you have put some time and distance between him and the episode that hurt him, he will be open to forgiveness. Be patient and understanding and he will see the good in you again.