When the lack of communication resides in the marriage
Bad communication techniques are essential in a good marriage and friendship relationship: before the danger zone of the red light is activated.
Wearing glasses can help focus for clear vision during a situation. Marital misunderstandings, complications, or a misperceived situation seeking attention for clear vision, when one or both partners are misinterpreting or lack listening skills.
Broken glasses determine that one or both partners are unaware of what is of relevant importance, indicating that one’s vision and perception are impaired. One or both partners may not be seeing the correct or constructive facts.
Reading the body and facial expressions represents any contradiction, dishonesty, disbelief, behavior, manners or doubts. It can also indicate concern, discomfort, or disapproval.
Eye contact at all times during non-communication can support closeness, knowledge, enlightenment, insight, understanding, and intellectual awareness. Unconscious thoughts, patterns, habits and attitudes can rise to the surface and symbolize an understanding of something that you need to be aware of in order to understand each other. When a partner avoids looking into the other’s eyes, it is objective evidence that he/she is not ready to converse intellectually.
Literally, the expression, words or actions can represent stopping and looking within. Before focusing on your partner. Trust your intuition and instincts. If during a heated situation one of the partners becomes extremely negative towards you, just learn to walk away by suggesting that we take five, five can refer to a five minute cool down and then come together to resolve. It’s amazing what five minutes of complication analysis can bring to your consciousness. The most important thing when making the decision to follow the rules of communication, such as taking minutes, both partners must agree; otherwise, one of the partners may feel neglected, which will cause further activation of the red light. Avoid this situation to strengthen yourself and grow in your marriage and friendship.
Otherwise, this condition will represent a path of coexistence of obstacles. Avoid critical gaze and faults in others: alternatively focus on the choice to demand self-awareness of the situation and its importance.
Ignorance of eye contact indicates your refusal to accept your partner’s point of view. This way or attitude indicates that you are one-sided in your way of thinking. If one is angry with a partner it is safe to say it is time to cool down, this time can provide time to understand and reconnect, instead of playing the blame game, as in my personal experience, blaming others is not the appropriate response, we must first work within ourselves to understand the faults or pain of others. When we allow blaming or blaming others, we are simply masking our own agenda of our own fears in order to accept our past painful experiences. Once you provide an avenue for self-awareness and awareness of your own experience of pain as an inner child, you will begin to determine, immerse yourself, and coexist with your partner to work on mutual understanding.
Verbal fights are just as damaging as physical fights, if not worse, due to the fact that emotional abuse is taking place, which turns into mental abuse. Physical abuse is simply intolerable to the point, if a partner wants to draw blood, it is a fair sign to say that you are not in a safe and comfortable place. Love does not require any tolerance for violence, just unacceptable.
Sometimes one partner may forget to realize that they are sending painful messages to the other partner to ease the pain within themselves, causing the other partner more distress, unconsciously saying things unnecessary hurtful actions to protect one’s ego, the ego is the biggest part of the complication, from the beginning, as if one has relevant information to prove who is right or who is wrong, however, a couple can continue to weigh on the relationship by becoming controlling as she hangs things over her head. That at some point you shared when there was a friendship and that couple took your strength from sharing that information as a weakness. When the friendship starts to deteriorate, everything else follows, like sexual complications. One of the partners begins to feel dissatisfied. Then things tend to get worse, the yelling starts and both get frustrated, looking for friendship and more outside of the relationship.
Well, because now respect is lost, in another to reactivate the green light you must first stop at the red light and proceed with caution.
Somehow, both of you need to stop and think before you enter a danger zone. To achieve communication, the first step is to stop and listen to each other. It doesn’t matter how painful it is. No one should say that it is easy. However, it provides an opportunity for challenge and reconnection.
If you have a hard time talking without yelling, I suggest you start typing back and forth without speaking, mindful of each other sitting across from each other. Never in your temple of love, (bedroom) the place where you share intimate love, it is important that this sacred place contains only positive energy.
This teaches patients connection, calmness, understanding, friendship, and most of all, communication. As for the inner child, don’t be afraid of what comes up, he begins to share things that may have come up from the past that contributed to or triggered your feelings to manifest in a certain way at the time. We subconsciously tend to carry old habits that are deeply wounded within us. In addition, we tend to destroy our new treasure, to compensate for old wounds.
The three main complications of marital affairs are communication, finances, and sex. Communication that symbolizes insight and intuition from within can bring light to the relationship. You must start looking within yourself to understand your partner, many times affairs occur when a partner is not 110% focused and/or committed to exchanging their full love energy with their partner, one must realize when a partner has an affair, that partner is taking and accepting full responsibility for their own miscommunication and dissatisfaction. By communicating, you can save your marriage from any mishap. That is where friendship and mutual respect really have value.
If you close your eyes to the truth or rejection: Regarding something or avoiding intimacy. It may be expressing feelings of hurt, pain, or sympathy. Your partner may want to take back negative undertakings in order to spark things in favor of commitment. Romance is there when everything else is going smoothly.
If your partner’s interest is not in the richness of the relationship, it denotes that you are not seeing clearly regarding a situation. You may be getting the facts mixed up, your partner may have lost interest a long time ago, to reignite the romance, there has to be a commitment of pure love and desire.
Conflict is a part of life regardless, that is what provides a crutch for growth and when both partners are aware they are aware of their action and reaction towards each other and in turn this provides growth within the relationship. However, it is important to have a structure for lasting potential growth in the same direction.
Communication and friendship are the key to a happy and lasting marriage.