Put your house in order (3)
Love, true love is very essential for us to have a stable home. Anything that is based on love will always last and be successful. From it will spring forgiveness, kindness, patience, support, sincerity, commitment and fidelity. And without all these the family cannot be in order. A man must love his wife and children with all his heart and all his strength. Yes, your resources are basically for your family. They must be in front-line cargo. First he supports his family and then he reaches out to others. If you always spend your money outside or on yourself, leaving your family behind, God will curse you. Safe! In fact, God’s word says that you must love and protect your family as Christ loves and protects the church. Now, Christ does not love the church because it is perfect or very good. No! It is only because it is your body. Nobody hates their body. Nobody wants to hurt their body. No matter how bad, old or ugly your body is, you will continue to nurture, nurture, care for and protect it. I said this because I could hear you ask what if you can’t love them. Yes, some people can be very difficult, thankless, complex and unpleasant, but you must do it because it is a commandment. Men are commanded to love their wives, their children, and also everyone who lives and stays around them. Yes, they (house helpers, drivers, workers, attendants, attendants, family members) are part of your home. I live to show the same level of love to those who live with me. Although from other parents, I see them as my children and partners. Everyone should be treated well with love, respect, and kindness.
Some want and give the best to their own children and mistreat others. This is very wicked and wicked and can draw the wrath of God into your home. The truth is that those around you are actually ‘angels’ sent to help you and also prove your faithfulness and love. And how you treat them can determine the level of your blessings or curses that you receive. Be careful! What you will do for your children you will also do for others. What you cannot do to your children, do not do to them. That is the will of God and it is what I believe and practice. So, wives should respect and love their husbands. You must see your husband as your brother, your partner, your friend, your father and your lord. Yes, your lord! You heard me right. Godly women in the Bible submitted, loved, and called their husbands their lord. Sarah called Abraham: “My lord.” It is not your enemy. It is not your competitor. It’s not that man or your boy. He is your lord, your beauty, your glory and your crown. That is the word of God. If you don’t see it and don’t treat it as such, your home / family may never be in order physically and spiritually. Listen, these are all the reasons why we have problems in the family today. Are you not seeing them: broken homes, lack of commitment, infidelity, fights, insincerity, dishonesty, financial sterility, etc.? You see how marriages break down in a few weeks, a few months. In fact, today it is ideal to jump from one relationship to another with flimsy excuses. This generation doesn’t really understand the virtues of perseverance, patience, submission, hard work, and true love that once made marriages and homes strong, beautiful, and long-lasting. Men must love and appreciate their wives. Wives must love and respect their husband and both must love, nurture, spiritually and emotionally support their children and others sent to live and minister to them. This is what will bring order to our homes.
So, we must not only love our children, but we must see that we have the same love for all of them. There are parents who do not have a personal, good and fluid relationship with their children. They are terror in the home. When they are close, everyone recoils in fear. Unrelated, unapproachable. This is bad. Your wife and children should be your best friends, your confidants, and your partners. Although they are still very young, I interact with my children as friends and partners. I eat and play with them. I don’t remember having dinner alone when they are around. I won’t even enjoy the food. I talk about almost everything related to family with my wife and children, unless it is extremely exclusive topics. Why hide things from them? If it turns good or bad, it will still affect them. I am always there to explain everything from scriptures to school work, current affairs and family problems, extended family and even village problems etc. I see them as my friends. (But that doesn’t take away discipline when necessary.) They must first learn from you. You have to make them trust you. They should not be afraid to approach you, play games, and discuss their strengths, fears, weaknesses, perspectives, and mistakes with you. You must receive love in order to give it. If you block them from all of this, the other outside and devious interests will fill the void and take them away from you. Love your spouse, love your children because they are your life, your joy, your name and your future. If you don’t show them love, they will grow up as haters, difficult people, and unlovable.
Now the other thing is that it must be seen that you love your children equally. This is very important because it is what today has destroyed many homes and family relationships. Many siblings have become the worst enemies just because their parents foolishly displayed favoritism. Even when you are tempted to love or favor one of them for whatever reason, you must resist or at least suppress the feeling. Even when you prefer one over the others, try your best to balance it by encouraging and supporting others to measure up. There is always a reason to love each child. Find them. No child enjoys being relegated or unloved by their parents for any reason. It can destroy psychologically and will hate you and your favored brothers or sisters forever. Look at the struggles that this particular problem brought to the families of Isaac and Jacob. In each case, it almost resulted in total destruction and murder. Isaac loved Esau but his wife Rebekah preferred Jacob. When Esau’s birthright was fraudulently taken away, he would have destroyed Jacob, had he not escaped. And it took divine intervention and prayer to finally reunite those brothers after the fact. Now, unfortunately, Jacob later fell into the same trap. He loved Joseph more than his brothers and foolishly showed it. And you saw how the boy was hated and escaped, divine and miraculous, from being killed by his disgruntled brothers. Even when you love someone, show it wisely because it can put any of you in danger. Don’t blur it recklessly and wildly to others. Some have been damaged or poisoned to death because of this. Jacob recklessly endangered Joseph by making him a colorful robe and by openly showing him his preference. Look at this, ‘Jacob loved Joseph more than any of his other sons because Joseph had been born to him in his old age. So one day Jacob made a special gift for Joseph: a beautiful robe. But his brothers hated Joseph because his father loved him more than anyone else. They could not say a kind word to him. “Genesis 37: 3-4
The young man was also naive in complicating matters with his practice of reporting his siblings to his father and also foolishly announcing his dreams of divine destiny to his already envious siblings. My God! A big mistake. It was bad enough that his father favored him, but worse still, that he was mocking their dreams and visions before them. And when given the chance, they immediately gleefully chose to “kill him and see what comes out of those dreams.” Yes, that’s what they said. Please be very careful how, when and with whom you share your dreams and visions, otherwise you will die with them. Most people, including friends and some relatives, may not be happy with you, especially if you want to be ahead of them. José paid terribly and almost lost his life for his and his father’s carelessness in this. Finally, your actions to put your home / family in order should also extend to assigning responsibilities while you are still alive and preparing a will very early.
Now, you shouldn’t wait to get old or sick before doing this. Some families have been burned, some dependents, including children, have been left stranded and helpless because they were not prepared, fixed, covered by these. Writing a will, preparing and assigning roles does not automatically mean that you are about to die. No. Rather, it is a sure way to permanently institutionalize peace, sanity, your love, the future, and order in your family. If you haven’t, please do so now. God said to King Nehemiah: “Put your house in order …” Yes, we are not about to die, but we must put our house in order wisely. David, my mentor, anointed and established Solomon on the throne while he was still alive. And you know what that saved his family from. God bless you! Now, we will discuss generational curses and generational blessings next time as they were mentioned earlier in this post. It is always an interesting topic. Do not miss it. Blessings to you again!
Gabriel is the author of the books / audiobooks: Power of Midnight Prayer, Receive Your Healing, Breaking Generational Curses: Claiming Your Freedom, Never Again !, I Shall Not Die, Move Forward and many others https://www.amazon.com / s? k = Gabriel + Agbo & I = audible & ref = dp_byline_sr_audible_1