Tips to captivate girls on your first date

Boring conversations kill dates

First dates are nerve-wracking, they just are, even for someone like me who is confident and has good dating skills. One thing that really stands out for girls is their ability to converse. I’ll be honest with you and say that the girls I am serious with will tolerate you being pretty lousy in bed, if you’re having fun hanging out. It starts out by being interesting to talk to.

So what are you talking about on a first date? After searching the internet for a while, I put together these 5 topics and tips to make sure your first date doesn’t get boring or awkward.

Talk about travel, not movies

You won’t join for your favorite movies, trust me!

Let’s face it, when you start talking about movies, you will think of men’s movies. He will think of girl movies. You are setting yourself up in her mind as if you are not like her. Incorrectly move the head of the meat. In a study by Richard Wiseman, fewer than 9% of couples who talked about movies wanted a second date compared to 18% of couples who talked about travel.

This shouldn’t be shocking. Talking about travel is something almost anyone can endorse and it gives both of you room to express hopes, dreams, and adventures. Movies will only bore her unless you’re a huge movie buff!

How you talk is as important as what you talk about

Master the back and forth flow of the conversation.

The key to having a great conversation on the first date is not dominating the conversation. Let him speak more than you do, but be sure to react and ask questions about what he is saying, adding value to the conversation.

A common mistake is speaking out of arrogance, selfishness, or nervousness. The other extreme is not knowing what to say, so you don’t say anything and let her talk all the time. If necessary, be completely random. Start talking about hairless cats. Anything to start the conversation!

Be genuine, vulnerable and share secrets

Being genuine and vulnerable generates trust and closeness

Your conversation should build what I would call a certain level of equality and trust. She needs to know emotionally that you are like her, you have emotions and you are not alone in the conversation to get into her panties, even though that may be true.

Arthur Aron, a psychologist at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, is interested in how people form romantic relationships, and he has come up with an ingenious way to bring men and women who have never met before and make them feel close to one. other. Since he only has an hour or so to create the levels of intimacy that typically take weeks, months, or years to build, he sped up the process of getting to know you through a set of thirty-six questions designed to get participants quickly from level one in the McAdams system to level two.

From:Snoop: what your stuff says about you

Let’s be honest here. Whether you’re trying to score on the first date or trying to build an all-ages relationship, it’s essential that the girl on the other side of the table trusts you and feels connected to you.

Worldly topics will kill you instead of making you nervous

Get controversial and exciting to have better conversations on the first date.

Boring, run-of-the-mill questions will make you the same as every other guy she’s dated. Think of some interesting topics that are really out there. Don’t be afraid to go crazy and wild with this. You’ll end up with a much more meaningful and in-depth conversation than just talking about sports, family, and their favorite desserts.

We limited the type of discussions online daters could participate in by removing their ability to do anything they wanted and giving them a pre-set list of questions and allowing them to ask only these questions. The questions we chose had nothing to do with the weather and how many brothers and sisters they have, and instead all the questions were interesting and personally revealing (i.e. “How many romantic partners did you have?”, “When was your last breakup?”, “Do you have any STDs?”, “Have you ever broken someone’s heart?”, “How do you feel about abortion? ? “) … Instead of talking about the World Cup or their favorite desserts, they shared their innermost fears or told the story of losing their virginity. Everyone, both the sender and the answering machine, was happier with the interaction … What we learned from this little experiment is that when people are free to choose what kinds of discussions they want to have, they often gravitate toward a balance that is easy to maintain but no one really enjoys or benefits from.

From: Dan ariely

Do you want to go to bed on the first date more?

Dating girls who like to drink beer

Okay, my evidence for this is anecdotal, but thinking about things, it’s more or less true. Some informal research corroborates this. OkCupid has asked its members many questions and found that one question is a reliable predictor of whether or not women were open to sex on the first date. “Do you like the taste of beer?”

Among all of our casual topics, whether someone likes the taste of beer is the best predictor of whether they have sex on the first date … No matter their gender or orientation, beer lovers are 60% more likely to be well. with sleeping with someone they just met. Unfortunately, this is the only question with a significant correlation for women.

From: OkCupid

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