ADHD: Innovative communication skills that will improve you by 90% and build confidence
Focus will improve when you communicate with others and listen to them using a special communication tip. It really works for me.
Communication skills with ADHD characteristics will improve by 90% depending on how focused you are. If you really focus on the skills and tips, you will become a very skilled communicator. Using values instead of feelings is the secret.
You will first need a list of values / needs. Post the list next to your phone, computer, and anywhere you can be talking to people. It will come in handy as you search for words to use until you learn this list.
You may want to practice this listening skill before going out into the world. Pick a place to eavesdrop on some people, such as a restaurant, a gathering, or a park. These people are your unpaid practice. but very valuable for your improvement.
You can put the list of needs in front of you. While people are talking, look down the list and find a value that satisfies you, such as: someone is talking to someone else. Now choose the word that may or may not be satisfactory. Now in your head silently guess the need. Again, they may or may not be satisfying the value.
Guess only one value from the list. The best part of this learning is that it doesn’t have to be correct. It is a conjecture. So you say to yourself in a question: “Are they wanting __________?” That’s it, as you are building a trusting connection with this person and need.
You may want to offer advice or a suggestion to this person. STOP! One piece of advice is not to. It is disastrous. Focus focus focus on your values / needs. Don’t try to fix them. This will come later unless they discover their own solution. Just focus on their values.
The other point of this is that the more values you try to guess, the more they go into the conversation. They will probably converse more deeply than you or they can imagine. Why? You’ve built an instant amount of trust just by focusing on your values …
In fact, they will enjoy your listening and how you value what they are talking about. You may need to stop them if you are getting tired, but most of the time you will also feel energized. Enjoy the energy and confidence that you are receiving.